Why do we repeat the same mistakes.

We do those things, eat cake when we're on a diet, sabotage every relationship we get into, procrastinate with getting our business off the ground, and then we ask ourselves why. 

Why do I keep doing that? Why do I run into the same situation over and over again? Why whenever things are going well for me I go into the self-destruct mode? Why can’t I stick to anything to save my life? 


It’s a painful condition. It’s so discouraging and frustrating not to know why something is happening to you because it’s tough to fix what you don’t understand. But in reality, repetitive patterns can be transformed and released. You don’t have to be at the mercy of your recurring issues for the rest of your life.

If you have you tried applying discipline and willpower to break repetitive behavior with no success, it could be an indication of something much more deeply-rooted. 

Something you are not aware of because it’s wedged in your subconscious mind; such as unhealed emotional wounds, unprocessed painful emotions or past conditioning that now rules your behavior and continues to sabotage everything you do. It’s the case of “you don’t know what you don’t know.”

Our subconscious mind is like an operating system that’s running our lives unbeknownst to us. All our memories of things that happened a long time ago and beliefs we formed in response to these events are there. All our emotional wounds and what we made them mean to us are there. They are like the programs of our lives, and we just keep repeating them, because deep down it’s what we know and more importantly what we believe.

So if for the nth time you fall for someone who is emotionally unavailable, or you just can’t keep the money in the bank no matter how much you make, the reason could lay deeper than you think.

Neuroscience in recent years has determined that our subconscious brain is responsible for making most of our decisions. It’s been proven that 95% of our behavior is controlled by the subconscious. And the thing is you can't talk yourself out of your repetitive patterns. You can't consciously change your unconscious mind. 

That's why conscious efforts at change have such a low success rate. Think New Year's resolutions. There is only so much you can do with willpower and discipline alone. Bummer.

But the good news is there's a way out. 

  1. First, you have to use your subconscious mind to change your unconscious behavior drivers. 
    How? There are multiple methods to access the unconscious, using image and metaphor is one of them. Also, any type of meditative practice or right-brain activity such as playing or listening to music or creating art will help. The goal is to switch to alpha brainwaves which occur during wakeful relaxation.
  2. Secondly, you need to communicate with your subconscious using language it understands, and words are not it. 
    It doesn’t comprehend words very well, and it definitely can’t read. That part of the human brain developed long before humans had language. Subconscious mind speaks in pictures. It uses symbol and metaphor as a communication tool, and you have to do the same if you want to have a "conversation" with your subconscious mind. 
  3. Finally, to implement lasting change, you need to establish a two-way communication with your subconscious mind to reprogram it. For example, you need to visually "tell" your mind that the old belief you've been holding onto is false and then send it an upgraded message to alter causality of your actions.

Before all of that, of course, you need to uncover the deep root of your repetitive pattern which is personal to you and identify unconscious beliefs that are perpetuating it. Taking this quiz can help you narrow down possible reasons.